Comments on: Is This Normal Toddler Behavior?

By: farra

farra — Fri, 18 Apr 2008 00:47:31 +0000

first, let me begin by telling you that i have been a preschool teacher for 8 years , all of my experience has been with 2 and 3 year olds , and i am a mother of a 2 1/2 yr. old myself.his behavior is perfectly normal. the problem is with his teachers.your child DOES NOT have a "fixation" if the friendship is mutual. if the other child avoided him, and believe me, he would if he did not like your child, then there might be a problem . however even then i would not go as far as calling it a fixation . if anything the two of them together may be "difficult". 2yr. olds create bonds just like anyone else . he is obviously attached to this child because they are best friends. if they are becoming to rowdy or disruptive it is their job to redirect their behavior at the first signs so as to prevent bad behavior. they can do this by redirecting there attention to other more acceptable behavior. after spending time with your children we should be able to know that special activity or toy that captures their attention .( playdough, stringing beads, shoeboxsize sandbox with small funnels and spoons) you hide it away in the cabinet and save it for such time of day. a routine should be set so that the children know this is a special toy that can only be used at a designated table by only one person at time. each child might be drawn to a different activity or the other might be left to play with a new friend for awhile .they can also be asked to be special helpers in which case if you don't have a job at the moment make one up.give them a wipe and ask them to help wipe tabletops. 5 or 10 minutes should allow them enough of a break to calm down and continue playing with each other . small breaks are okay though mom, and you have to except that. if they have a schedule to follow and they are too difficult . like during story time, or circle time ( this is when we are teaching), even perhaps during lunch, definetly during nap. during free time they should NOT be separated for extended periods of time.
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By: breesmama07

breesmama07 — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 22:53:15 +0000

poor you and poor little kid he has just found someone he gets on well with and is comfortable with talk to management they might need to find ways to channel a little boys natural naughtiness X2lol in a more positive way than seperating them which doesnt teach them anything and makes them both miserable. good luck i hope it all turns out ok for you both
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By: wenforr

wenforr — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 22:36:19 +0000

I don't think it's abnormal at all. Not at this age at least. I have a 4 year old that has a best friend in preschool- and they are inseparable. I think labeling it a "fixation" is a big mistake on the teacher's part. They just like each other a lot, and believe me- some kids just have chemistry and hit it off- and end up winding each other up and being silly all the time. I wouldn't worry uneccessarily.
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I taught Headstart for four years. 3 and 4 year olds.

By: Trying2BNice

Trying2BNice — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 22:01:02 +0000

First, so-called teachers, especially unqualified ones who typically babysit preschoolers, want an easy job. If your child is more work or requires more attention or cuts into their break time, then the babysitter-teachers will take corrective action and start applying labels telling you that YOU have a problem. Second, you wouldn't have this issue if you were a SAHM. Bottom line: ignore their silly labels and ask them to do their job.
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By: JB

JB — Thu, 17 Apr 2008 21:50:01 +0000

if 2 kids are disruptive, they will separate them so they dont have to stress or yell at them. its normal
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i work at a daycare