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Jun
10
2009
Toddler Behavior – Dealing With the Terrible Twos Posted on 08:42, June 10th, 2009 by adminBy Chris J Thompson For most parents, toddler behavior is a major issue at some point. The “Terrible Twos” can often be just the beginning. In this article I’d like to explain to you what I believe is the root cause of most behavior problems and how you can avoid such problems in your household. Between about 18 month and 24 months, most children start to speak many words, but they understand much more than they can speak. They know what they want, but they can’t express themselves with words very well. When parents don’t respond as per the toddler’s unspoken wishes, the result can be a temper tantrum. It’s a totally normal result, we all go through it, but it is something that you can learn to deal with to dramatically reduce these problems in your home. The most important aspect of dealing with the terrible twos is communication. Specifically, make sure that you are listening to your child. If you don’t understand what he or she wants, simply pick up your child and say “show me”. About half the time a tantrum is the result of your child wanting something and not getting it. You might just not understand what your child wants and never thought to ask. Saying “show me” is an easy way to ask. The other half of the time you ill have to deny your child something. Perhaps little Sammy wants to play with your fine China. Naturally, you wont’ let him. But instead of saying “no”, I want to really encourage you to simply apply some distraction techniques. When kids are 2 years old, they do not have strong attention spans. So if your child wants something and you are about to say “no”, stop yourself. Think about this instead: Is your toddler old enough to actually understand the logic behind your answer? Of course not! So use distraction instead of logic. Logic and 2-year-olds do not mix. Stop wasting your time. In summary, most toddler behavior issues can be solved by two things. First, better listening by the parent. If you listen instead of talk, you’ll get more information and be better equipped to solve your toddler’s problem. Second, understand that logic is not your friend when it comes to the terrible twos. Logic isn’t going to really be useful to you until your child is about 4 years old, in my experience. Instead of saying “no” to your children and attempting to explain why, just ignore the request completely and apply a much more appealing distraction. Here is one distraction that I like to use: If my daughter is trying to get her hands on something that I’d rather she left alone, I will often be successful by picking her up and applying several distractions to overwhelm her and cause her to forget what she was doing. First, I’ll speak to her in a playful voice. Then, I’ll tickle her. Third, I’ll pick her up and carry her over to a window and mention something about the outside such as “Hey, do you see that furry squirrel on that tree”? Then, I just plop her down in front of some other toys that she is allowed to play with. When your children get to be a bit older, this simple distraction method may not work as well. Luckily there are all kinds of language tricks that you can use to influence your kids to do what you want them to do. To learn more about the language skills that will help you learn how to deal with toddlers check out my audio course “Talking to Toddlers” at http://TalkingToToddlers.com and make sure to sign up for the free audio lesson. Learn these tools. Reduce your parenting stress.  Tags: Toddler BehaviorBy Gail Woods For a parent, toddler behavior can be quite traumatic. It can also be a lot of fun. From the moment your toddler takes his first steps and utters his first words, it would appear as if a catastrophe in human form has been unleashed. Undaunted he will drag heavy chairs around and climb them to get at those high cupboards where the poisons are stored. Holes will be plugged with little fingers. If an object can be shoved into his mouth to be tasted and chewed, then in it goes. Drawers and cupboards will be emptied and refilled over and over again. Food will be squished and spread everywhere with great delight. Try stopping him from investigating his little world and he will scream blue murder. When his food or juice is not ready at just the moment he decides he is hungry or thirsty then he will whine until you are ready to throw him out with the rubbish. Forget trying to get him to share a toy (or anything else for that matter) with another child or sibling. As far as he is concerned it is just not going to happen. Sounds awful doesn’t it? Actually, it needn’t be all that bad. Try looking at the problem from your toddlers perspective. There he is and there are all those wonderful and exciting things everywhere around him. He needs to discover. He needs to experiment. But, he can’t speak adequately so he can’t ask. He is unable to understand you properly when you talk to him. He is however a great mimic. Good and bad toddler behavior depends a lot on you. If he sees you doing something, or hears you say something, then sooner or later he will try to do or say it as well. You plug in the vacuum cleaner, or take tablets, or smear cream on your face or use a swear word – so why can’t he? You need to constantly divert his attention away from what you are doing – so that he does not try to do it as well. When you are cooking, how about giving him a little bowl of bread mixed with water or milk to stir with a spoon or squish with his fingers. Sure he will gleefully make a mess, but he won’t be trying to drag that boiling pot off the stove to see what is in it. Need to clean windows? Wonderful! A small bucket of soapy water with a little bit of vinegar plus a pair of cotton socks (one sock on each hand) and he can wash the bottom of the windows while you work down from the top. At the same time chat or sing to him. He will be having so much fun, that he is unlikely to wander off and get into mischief and you can get that much needed job done in record time. How do you cope with his sudden decision that he wants to eat or drink – right now! Try putting a low plastic table in a corner somewhere that is just for him. Make sure there is always a bottle or sippy cup of juice or water available for him to take whenever he wants or needs it. You might even add a small plate of healthy finger foods from time to time. Come dinner time tonight, dish up an extra plate of food in a plastic plate, cover and freeze for future use – so that if you are caught short and his food is not ready in time then you can whip out one of the frozen meals and warm it up in just a few minutes. He doesn’t have long to wait and you don’t have to put up with a half hour of screaming and whining. Of course he is going to yell NO! When he doesn’t want to do something, (besides he no doubt hears you use the word often enough) but consider this … he is also learning to say no to his peers in years to come when they try to persuade him to do something that SHOULDN’T be done. Try to avoid using the word “no” whenever possible. Find an alternative and explanatory word such as “danger” when he is about to stick his finger in the electrical socket, or you catch him with a sharp object. He will soon cotton on. When toddler behavior threatens to drive you to madness, all you need to do is find interesting ways to divert his attention and allow him to investigate, explore and experience his world. To learn more about dealing with temper tantrums, teaching your toddler to share and even teaching him how to do chores willingly, as well as dealing with other behavior problems in children click on the link below. Tags: Toddler BehaviorNov
19
2008
Why is it that the parents with the worst behavior kids have think they are angels?Posted on 18:47, November 19th, 2008 by admin
Im talking like, parents that are all the time, Jonny is perfect, does nothing wrong. And even when the kid does horrible things right in front of them, they still do nothing and think they are perfect. These kids just get away with everything and are Satan’s Spawns!!! Why is this?? Nov
19
2008
Can anyone recommend any good books about kids’ behavior problems?Posted on 18:47, November 19th, 2008 by adminI wasn’t sure how to put that in a question. What I’m looking for is a book that will help me communicate with my children (10 and up) better. Or help my children communicate with eachother better. I have “How to Talk so Kids Will Listen…” and also “Siblings Without Rivalry”. Something along those lines. Can you help and recommend some? Thanks Nov
18
2008
Do you think that kids are being over diagnosed with ADD or ADHD, or just a plan ole behavior problem.?Posted on 18:38, November 18th, 2008 by adminI was wondering if any of you parents out there feel like they (teachers and doctors) are over diagnosing kids with ADD, ADHD, or behavior problems. Do you think sometimes kids are just that “kids” and some are more well behaved than others. Some listen better than others and some concentrate better than others. I am talking all ages, from preshoolers to high schoolers. What is your take on it!
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11
2008
Discipline and Fathers | www.child-behaviour-problems.comPosted on 12:01, September 11th, 2008 by admin
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11
2008
teach2talk – Social Skills! Volume 1 | Child behaviour ProblemsPosted on 12:01, September 11th, 2008 by admin
Duration : 0:1:44 my best friend has a 4yr old who has agression problems. yes we know why he has these problems, he grew up watching daddy beat mummy; the problem is, he hitts, bites, kicks teachers and other pupils. the school send him home at first sign of trouble and his single mum has to cope with him being violent for the whole week. so… hes not in school, hes learnt that if hes bad the moment he goes to school on a monday he is at home all week. he sees a phycologist etc, andno on e knows why he filpps. example – i am 6 monhs pregnant and he is well excited to meet the baby, yet i was stood in his halway waiting for him to put his jacket on and he punched me hard in the tummy. es i was in a and e. he has a very hard punch. hismum is on her last nerve, she feels she cant cope and the school wont help her. does anyone have any ideas what she can do? anyone no of any school in the far east england that would cope? we have been through council etc and they are “geting back to us”????? I am puttiing together the most common childhood behavioural problems a long with a list of parents suggested solutions. What problems do you have with your children? e.g. My chiildren don’t want to get dressed for school. Thank you for your help. |
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Thomas Haller, The Parent Professor, shares a tip on how to get your child to stop whining.
Discipline and Fathers Everybody agrees that children need their freedom. Yet on the other hand everybody agrees there is a need for greater discipline. This is the contradiction every parent faces in bringing up their own children. According to Lamb in ‘The father’s role: Cross-cultural perspectives’ research emphasizes the important role of fathers in helping children to learn the standards of behavior for their group and to develop the capacity of self-regulation. When fathers are absent, curtail, or ignore their child-rearing responsibilities, there are implications throughout the family system. Mothers are likely to feel unsupported, abandoned, angry, and resentful. The resulting tension exacerbates the child’s challenging behaviors. Lack of parental involvement by the father leaves the mother as the sole unsupported teacher of social skills and deprives the child of another role model. Campbell says in ‘Behavior Problems in Preschool Children: Clinical and Developmental Issues’ when fathers do not participate in child rearing, the results can be heightened intensity and duration of mother–child conflict and problems in discipline.
Trailer for teach2talk’s Social Skills! Volume 1 – Sharing. teach2talk’s Social Skills! series of DVD videos helps teach children appropriate social behaviors through the use of targeted video modeling. Volume 1 of our Social Skills! series, Sharing, focuses on a critical component of every child’s socialization — learning to share — by modeling appropriate sharing behaviors in a variety of scenarios and settings, and by incorporating humor and songs to keep children engaged and provide additional reinforcement. teach2talk’s goal with Sharing is to help children find enjoyment in sharing their experiences and possessions with other people. In addition to helping teach children how to share, this video also helps teach children appropriate language to use when sharing. This video is appropriate for children of all ages, whether as an introduction to the concept of sharing or as a reinforcer or refresher on the concept.