help with child behaviour in school?
Posted on 00:00, September 7th, 2008 by
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my best friend has a 4yr old who has agression problems. yes we know why he has these problems, he grew up watching daddy beat mummy; the problem is, he hitts, bites, kicks teachers and other pupils. the school send him home at first sign of trouble and his single mum has to cope with him being violent for the whole week. so… hes not in school, hes learnt that if hes bad the moment he goes to school on a monday he is at home all week. he sees a phycologist etc, andno on e knows why he filpps. example – i am 6 monhs pregnant and he is well excited to meet the baby, yet i was stood in his halway waiting for him to put his jacket on and he punched me hard in the tummy. es i was in a and e. he has a very hard punch. hismum is on her last nerve, she feels she cant cope and the school wont help her. does anyone have any ideas what she can do? anyone no of any school in the far east england that would cope? we have been through council etc and they are “geting back to us”?????
sounds like he might need tough love..since the dad isnt there the fatherly tough love isnt either..or maybe he needs to take a kickboxing class, for self discipline or have a polce officer speak to him to help straighten him out while he’s young to get that bad vibe off him now so he wont turn out to be some crazy woman hater..the younger to straighten them out the better…good luck..could you update me on his progress..skygodess003@yahoo.com
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sounds like he might need tough love..since the dad isnt there the fatherly tough love isnt either..or maybe he needs to take a kickboxing class, for self discipline or have a polce officer speak to him to help straighten him out while he's young to get that bad vibe off him now so he wont turn out to be some crazy woman hater..the younger to straighten them out the better…good luck..could you update me on his progress..skygodess003@yahoo.com
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It sounds like your son is suffering from a form of Autism. This can be helped with the right support from the medical practitioners. Get you GP and the school to refer him to an educational Psychologist. He needs to be shown alot of love and affection, but you need to set strict boundaries with him. Reward his good behaviour. Avoid physically punishing him, he'll only want to fight back more. Find other ways to show him that certain parts of his behaviour are unacceptable. It won't be easy. But you need professional help with him. IF needs be get a second opinion, which is your right. Don,t take no as an answer from the authorities. Good Luck!
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Is he being disciplined when he does this? spanking, taking away favorite things he likes, or is he being spoiled? It could be ADD or ADHD.
But MAKE him stop. His mother might feel sorry for him, and not spank him, but she is NOT doing him any favors by doing this… a butt spank and then make him stay in his room, telling him unless he behaves, he has to stay in there. Some people have forgotten what being a PARENT a is all about. She is in charge, she makes the rules and he should respect adults. TEACHING RIGHT FROM WRONG! Not telling them, but showing them the consiqences of their actions.
I am not saying be abusive, there is a difference. But with kids, they are like sponges, and from the ages of 2-7 is the time this will work, cause that's when they are learing their behavior and boundaries. Whether it is acceptable or not. Time out, whatever works, but do it consistantly and do it firmly. But make it last! IF this doesn' t work, see a doctor, he may have autism.
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It sounds like your friend needs to take him to see her GP. This sort of behaviour can't be allowed to continue. I know it sounds strange, but what sort of diet does he have. I had a problem with my son some years back with behaviour, and we found that he was allergic to the e-numbers(clourings & flavourings) in foods and squashes and sweets. As soon as we eliminated them from his diet he was OK. If your friend does home cooked food for him, instead of ready meals this will help greatly. Instead of squashes she can just by the pure juices in cartons, or smoothies. Puddings can be home cooked or fresh fruit. Instead of having highly coloured sweets, he can have dried fruits, or chocolate.
Please get her to go and see the doctor, as he will end up with no friends, and being excluded from school.
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Ask the school to test him and then to provide whatever services are necessary in order to overcome his aggressiveness.
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