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Aug
16
2008
Child Behaviour problems with my 6yr old son.? Posted on 03:54, August 16th, 2008 by adminMy son is unbearable in social situations,he just goes crazy.Ignoring him doesn’t work,the standard discipline procedures don’t work and I don’t believe in hitting kids.What can I do next?Every time we have visitors it turns into a nightmare.He is jumping off the furniture,jabbering like a crazy boy and dancing into peoples faces.Sounds funny but it’s not!He has always had behaviour problems,he has been assessed for ADHD,his doctor said there was nothing wrong with him,he’s just ‘like that’. He is a very clever boy,he can read way above his age level and has an amazing vocabulary.I have even taken parenting classes,just in case the problem was me.Even the teachers there were at a loss for what to do next.He is a loving and affectionate boy,but I can’t spend the rest of my life not taking him out because of the way he behaves.He is the 3rd child of 4,non of my other kids are like this.What can I do? I am not a single parent,his Daddy is a great man who takes equal share in raising the kids.His siblings are 21,16 and 4,as you can see by my other kids ages I have been parenting a long time.I thought I knew how to deal with kids but this boy has me thrown.
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Well it sounds like a problem but probably you have to get hard on him and be more strict with him then he will cool down a little bit but if you are soft with him then he will be spoiled.
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He is vying for attention and totally out of control.
Is he the only boy? If he had brothers they would show him that it wasn't acceptable.. Doesn't he have a father that would discipline him ?
Males can relate to males at this age a lot better.. he isn't too old to spank and its amazing one good swat in the rear and all of a sudden he realizes that his behavior is totally unacceptable. Then he gets sent to his room with no tv, computer to make his room more fun. You better do something right now Mom, he has you under his thumb, you forget your the parent?
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well lets put it this way he is the special one i am having the sort of the same thing with my 2year old shes really out there and sticks her tongue out at the oldest one which she is 8 on 9 this month and every time i get on to the oldest the 2year gets behind me and thinks its funny and does the tongue thing and my oldest starts saying shes mean thats all i hear everyday shes mean. have you tried to make him write sentence, or put in on his bed for an hour, stick him in the corner, ground him on the things he likes doing? Thats what i do to the oldest and the 2years i stick her in the room and shes knows what shes doing because she goes to the oldest and saids shes sorry.
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My son was like that too, then he got diagnosed with Autism. Maybe they should check for a mild form since it is a spectrum disorder.
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My daughter is the same way. She can be very hyper at times, she's 7. If we go out to dinner she constantly gets out of her seat. She runs around when we get visitors or go somewhere. She is the top in her class at reading a writing. My sister was also the same way as a child, and she had to have certain foods cut out of her diet. So look at what your child eats that should be making him hyper. You'll be surprised, because sometimes even foods such as cheese/eggs/orange juice as well as sweets, sugar can make a child hyper. If its not a food issue, how active is he during a week. Make sure he is getting plenty of outside play. I live in an apartment, so no yard, so I started to put my daughter into activities, she goes to dance class twice per week and gymnastics, and I take my kids to the park couple times per week. Now that I she is more active, she has calmed down dramatically since she is now that she has a way to release her energy. If he continues to act up, even if you give him ways to release his energy, then start to punish. Take things away from him, such as TV, toys etc. When he realizes that there is a consequence for bad behavior, he is likely to try to behave better. Try finding activities for him such a soccer or whatever sport he likes, or nature walks/hikes. He has a lot of energy, and if he doesn't have an escape for it, he will continue to misbehave.
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My daughter was the same way at that age. She is now 15. She skipped a grade in middle school because she was so smart. She was very high maintinance trying to steal the show at every situation. It was very hard to raise her, But I had to be with her and direct her and keep her busy always. Good luck, your rewards are ahead of you.
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A good spanking might be all it would take. I know you said that you don't believe in "hitting" kids, but sometimes a swat on the butt is what it takes. It might get his attention. So many kids do what ever they want because they know that nothing will be done about it. Another approach might be to have him stand in the corner with his nose against the wall. Then He can't see anything or do anything. YOU have to control your kid. No one else will. It sounds like he is controling you.
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My sons the same way. So I know how you feel! Have you tried taking him to a behavioral therapist? I took my son to one and it worked out really well. It helped out immensly!!
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Mommy to an ADHD boy
break your rule and whoop his a** one time. my mom did that 2 my little brother and she didnt believe in hitting kids. Now he acts perfect in public. If u decided to spank him do it in front of his friends
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I'm sure your getting many "mom & dad" answers. As a mother of twins I think I get it. He does not like anyone around you and wants constant attention. He seems very territorial and probably gets his way a lot. My advice is to not let your life revolve around him and his actions. I would still go out and take your other children and leave him at home with a sitter. This will be very hard to do but after a few times of him seeing this and asking why you'll be able to explain to him then that his behavior is not acceptable and until he can behave properly then and only then may he join you. I know it sounds hard but it is good discipline and nothing tramatic is involved. Good Luck!
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take him to a doctor who specialises in behavioural disorders. I would be following it up further. You have done all the right things (good on you for doing the parenting course). Sometimes doctors get it wrong. It may not be ADHD it may be something else or it may be nothing but you need to see someone who will look for things other than ADHD. Ask your G.P for a referral
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How about setting up a plan with him. Make a list of rules that he has to follow while he is out. Make a check list for him to take with him. Make a special visiting box for him to take with him when he is out. Go to the stores a pick things to put in the box, (books, videos, puzzles, etc) when you a visiting and he is behaving as he should he can open the box, put a secret surprise in there so, he will start behaving to find out what is in there.
Best of luck.
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