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How to Change a Child’s Behavior Problems

datePosted on 11:09, November 21st, 2008 by admin

 By Elizabeth Sultan

Parents can become overwhelmed when their child misbehaves. This usually starts when the child is a toddler and carries on as they grow. Not following directions, hitting when upset and talking back are common issues parents try to tackle everyday. Some parents have run out of options and the child has free reign to act however he or she pleases. It is important to stay in control since you are the adult and need to guide them towards good behaviors.

Many parents use physical punishment such as spanking with their children but it is not as effective as you may think. It will stop the bad behavior during that time, but it will not teach the child how to change the behavior. If he or she does not know good behavior, they are likely to continue doing the bad. Over time, physical punishment will have little effect and may even cause the child to become aggressive. There are better ways to rid them of their naughtiness.

The time-out method will quickly stop the unwanted behavior. Decide on a spot for the time-out. This should be an uninteresting area such as a corner or on a chair. The amount of time that the time-out should be can be determined by the age of the child. If the child is 5 years old, 5 minutes will be long enough for them to sit and think about why they are having a time-out. Once the minutes are done, do not talk about the incident. Instead plan ways to reward them when they are behaving well.

There are many ways to create a reward system for the child. One is by tracking their good and bad behavior on a chart. Stickers can show the total of the times the child was good. After a certain amount of stickers a reward can be given. Another way to teach the child good behavior is by using a timer. For children who procrastinate this can be quite the incentive. Assign them a task to complete. This might be cleaning their room, or washing the dishes. If it is finished by the time the timer rings, reward them. They will learn that there are benefits for doing good tasks. Praising them when they act well also helps to encourage them to continue to do so.

No one ever said parenting is easy, but there are many ways to lessen the stress and add more fun to your family. Promoting good behavior at a young age will stay with them when they are adults and have their own families.

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Resolving Your Children’s Bad Behavior Problems

datePosted on 12:17, November 20th, 2008 by admin

By Michael W Anderson

I’m sure you’ve heard it said, “children are a gift from God.” But when you discover your children have bad behavior problems, do you feel their more a gift from Satan? Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids with all my heart but a lot of times I’m really embarrassed by their bad behaviors.

I get so discussed when they hit each other or other children, talk back to me (usually in front of my friends) or throw a temper tantrum in a crowded restaurant. I know kids don’t come with instruction manuals (if you know of one please let me know), but what are we as parents to do to control our children’s bad behavior?

First they have to know that they are loved and no matter what they do, you will always love them with all your heart. But they must also know that actions have consequences and sometimes those consequences may not be pleasant.

One thing I suggest you try is to deny them something you know will affect them the most if taken away. Find out what activity or item will bother them the most if they aren’t allowed to have for a while. If they like to watch television, tell them they can’t watch it for a day. If they love to play Playstation, take it away from them. If he has a favorite toy, don’t allow him to play with it.

Let him know the reason your taking away the privilege is a result of his bad behavior and that your very disappointed in his behavior. You may have to do this a few times before they get the message. Be ready to listen to a lot of crying and whining but be strong and hang in there. If you have children with bad behavior problems and you feel like your at the end of your rope, give this tactic a try. You could be on the right track to changing you and your children’s lives forever.

Mike Anderson is a local businessman, internet marketer and a father of two adult children. My wife and I have been through the “terrible twos”, and all the other stages of child rearing. I can help you solve your child’s behavior problems. If you found this article helpful and want to find out more about handling children with bad behavior problems please visit my web site at http://www.squidoo.com/behaviorproblems

 

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Discover 3 Top Tips for Dealing with Child Behavior Problems in Schools

datePosted on 12:14, November 20th, 2008 by admin

By Lee McIntyre

When a lot of people think about child behavior problems, they often think of teenagers. On the news it’s usually teenagers at high school who end up with the publicity. The high school teachers who have to cope with the behavior.

But dealing with young children is hard too. Young children can be exhausting at the best of times, but when they don’t behave they are a nightmare.

Read on to discover my 3 top tips for dealing with classroom management issues with young children.

Tip 1 – Demand respect

Each and every time you’re in a classroom with your class you need to be respected. Presence in the classroom is vital if you’re going to have complete order and calm. This doesn’t mean you have to be mean, or very tall, anyone can do it.

Use your body language and move around the room confidently. Make sure that your pupils know when you’re in the room, and what you expect them to be doing.

Tip 2 – Clear Instructions

With young children, they often have short attention spans. They aren’t very good at listening. So try to make your instructions as clear as possible. Don’t ask a very young child to do more than a couple of things at a time.

For instance, you may need them to tidy up, bring their books to you, and gather round to listen. Get them to tidy up first. Then tell them to bring you their books. They get them to sit down.

By giving clear and simple instructions they can’t forget what they’re supposed to be doing and your life becomes instantly easier.

Tip 3 – Praise

We all love to be praised when we do well. Think how you feel when your headteacher praises you on a brilliant lesson they’ve observed. It’s fantastic!

Young children love praise more than anybody. So don’t be afraid to give it to them. In spades. There’s always something to praise your class for, whether it’s individuals or whole classes who deserve it. There is no better motivator than good, honest praise. Try it, and you’ll see child behavior problems improve in your classroom before your very eyes!

Teaching is hard! Make it easier by learning about some classroom management that works ! today.

Visit http://www.ClassroomManagement101.com now and claim back your classroom and start enjoying being a teacher again.

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datePosted on 10:51, November 20th, 2008 by admin

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Im talking like, parents that are all the time, Jonny is perfect, does nothing wrong. And even when the kid does horrible things right in front of them, they still do nothing and think they are perfect. These kids just get away with everything and are Satan’s Spawns!!! Why is this??
It’s easier to act oblivious and ignorant than take responsibility for your child and discipline them.

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Can anyone recommend any good books about kids’ behavior problems?

datePosted on 18:47, November 19th, 2008 by admin

I wasn’t sure how to put that in a question. What I’m looking for is a book that will help me communicate with my children (10 and up) better. Or help my children communicate with eachother better. I have “How to Talk so Kids Will Listen…” and also “Siblings Without Rivalry”. Something along those lines. Can you help and recommend some? Thanks
Try 7 habbits of highly affective teens by sean covey jr,, yeah it’s really good

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Has anyone notice agressive behavior in kids with PS2?

datePosted on 18:38, November 18th, 2008 by admin

We have notice a pattern with our 12 year old. When he plays the PS2 his personality changes for the worse. When we take him off, he levels out. Our neighbors took their kid off all together. Last night our kid’s eyes were dylated after playing WWF on PS2. Has anyone else experienced this behavior or made this connection?
Stop. It is very important for you as a parent to understand video games more. Your child will instantly dismiss your opinions, advice, caring, and anything else you have to say on that topic as unjustified nagging. You child has most likely become dependent on video games in general. This instantly gratifying form of entertainment is always accessible and attentive. If he plays a lot he is most likely replacing certain aspects of his life that are essential to him both physically, mentally, and socially. Psychologically playing video games for a long period of time makes you grumpy. Moody in unexplainable ways just like angsty teens. For whatever reason they do. I would strongly compare it to watching TV for 14 hours. You just feel terrible afterwards. Some times children do not recognize this or connect playing for too long to their current mood. So when they do come out of it, you may be telling them to get off and as such they will start to connect that bad mood to your nagging and then blame you. Insensible but a child’s logic is what it is. Playing video games exercises only certain areas of your brain. The other areas usually ‘turn off’. Unfortunately some of those areas happen to be directly involved with important somatic and autonomic functions of the body as well as emotions (thus making the child more emotionally volatile). You are the most collected when your brain has had time to reorganize itself after sleeping, but imagine your brain is a ‘daze’ like state waiting to be used and then suddenly firing up. Lack of exercise will also negatively affect your child’s mood. When the body stays dormant for long periods of time certain chemicals such as adrenaline and testosterone are produced more infrequently. We all know the affect a change in testosterone can have on a child, especially one entering puberty. It should be noted that video games are also calming and very good for ‘decompressing’ stress. Thus video games should be used in moderation if your child enjoys them. It’s like TV, too much is not good, but a little won’t make a difference. The best way to get your child off video games or at least less dependent on them is to become more involved in their life and to find other things they are interested in. A musical instrument, soccer, animation programs on the computer, acting, art, film making. Go the distraction route rather than the prohibition route. Be involved and help them find things they may like. Don’t just tell them to stop playing a video game and go play outside. As a 12 year old film making and acting never existed in my life. Going outside meant riding my bike which wasn’t something I wanted to do all the time. Be the one to be involved, I can’t stress this enough. You will never be as effective as the child freely choosing to do something else. EDIT: I’m back. After looking at the various responses and seeing how the thumbs ups and thumbs down are going it’s very obvious there are two camps here. The parents of children who play video games and the people who play video games. The parents are clearly thumbs downing the posts that are saying violent video games do not cause violence and also thumbs upping the posts that are in support of their argument. Alternatively, the video gamers are thumbs downing the parents and thumbs upping posts they can relate to. As someone who grew up playing a lot of violent video games I have to ask all those parents if they themselves have ever sat down for 4 hours to play GTA or Halo? Sincerely given them a chance and tried to have some fun? I would say almost all of them have not. How can you judge a video game when you’ve never tried it yourself. Give it a try. I’m willing to bet that after playing you’re not going to feel like killing your family and neighbours. You may feel worked up, frustrated perhaps, definitely your eyes will hurt and body will be stiff, but violent nature? Probably not. Kids are irresponsible, but it doesn’t mean emotionally they are growing up faster than you think. We are being exposed more and more to an adult world at a faster age. It may not be good but we’re an entire generation that has survived it. They have ratings because the content may be mature, but that doesn’t mean 13+ will cause violent behaviour in kids under 13. Often it means the game is far too complex. Look at violent movies, adults, teenagers, and people all over the world watch them. Every time I see a James Bond film I don’t walk out of the theatre with this urge to gun a bunch of people down. Believe me I have been there. I stopped seeing my friends, always argued with my parents when I was living at home, neglected my life due to video games and overall it made me depressed, moody, and volatile but it was not the content of the video games. One of my favourite games was Mario Kart, but what was affecting me was the amount of time I spent doing it while doing nothing else. You risk alienating your child if you start taking away his entertainment for what he will undoubtedly see as unjustified. You’ll tell him what he’s feeling, and he will be feeling something else inside (and not what you’re telling him). I can’t tell you how to raise your kid, but I can tell you to loose the violence argument. There’s with out a question too much time on video games is bad, that is your argument but at least if you come down to a level where you can relate to your child and they can relate to you, you’ll be on the right track.

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I was wondering if any of you parents out there feel like they (teachers and doctors) are over diagnosing kids with ADD, ADHD, or behavior problems. Do you think sometimes kids are just that “kids” and some are more well behaved than others. Some listen better than others and some concentrate better than others. I am talking all ages, from preshoolers to high schoolers. What is your take on it!
there are so many horrible diagnosis’ these days, and all for the sake of a greedy doctor…and pharmaceutical company to get rich. What did our forefathers ever do, and how did they ever get by? Isn’t is strange, that some of the best inventions, best ever movies, art, etc…came before everyone started getting diagnosed with a mental illness? Kids can’t even be kids any more….

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How can going on the computer change a kids behavior?

datePosted on 18:38, November 18th, 2008 by admin

Can you answer this as fast as you can?! please! I need this answer for my Science project!
I have no idea. your question is way too vauge. for a science project you should ask if going on the computer after a stressful day makes you more calm or something. wow. you’re trollig up our site… How can going on the computer change a kids mood? In Adolescent – Asked by bluezali – 6 answers – 7 minutes ago – Open How can going on the computer change a kids behavior? In Adolescent – Asked by bluezali – 5 answers – 12 minutes ago – Open How can going on the computer change a kids behavior? In Adolescent – Asked by bluezali – 2 answers – 18 minutes ago – Open How can going on the computer change a kids behavior? In Adolescent – Asked by bluezali – 4 answers – 23 minutes ago – Open you asked this question FOUR times in 23 minutes…. god. annoying much?

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So, I see that alot of parents think that if you parent your child well, and are a great parent and make sure your child is in a healthy environment, that the child will grow up being great kids?

That is wrong, a child may have parents who parent them properply, hae a caring mother who teaches them things..But the chld may grow up in his teen years totally interested in drug dealing, making money illeglly, and fraud.

So, why do parents think that? “Some people will say “I taught my children well, and I am a great parent and my children grew up as great smart kids”

Children and your son/daughter have a mind of their own, and doesn’t mean you can be their brain, even if you teach them at an early age?

i know!they always say that don’t they?no offense dear beloved parents but thats the fact.It’s natural,one day,we might also think like that.They love their children and sometimes spoil them hoping that their child appreciates it and will repay them by doing good,but actually not all of them do.Don’t get me wrong,i love my parents.Some(some,not all) kids don’t think like this and they are looking in their own point of view ,i believe if they actually thought of this,they might become good people.Its nothing wrong really,it means they have high hopes and faith in their children.Sorry if i provoked or made anybody unhappy but these are only my thoughts.If you disagree with me then you don’t need to think about my answer.Feel free to follow your own idea.

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