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Jun
10
2009
Toddler Behavior – Dealing With the Terrible Twos Posted on 08:42, June 10th, 2009 by adminBy Chris J Thompson For most parents, toddler behavior is a major issue at some point. The “Terrible Twos” can often be just the beginning. In this article I’d like to explain to you what I believe is the root cause of most behavior problems and how you can avoid such problems in your household. Between about 18 month and 24 months, most children start to speak many words, but they understand much more than they can speak. They know what they want, but they can’t express themselves with words very well. When parents don’t respond as per the toddler’s unspoken wishes, the result can be a temper tantrum. It’s a totally normal result, we all go through it, but it is something that you can learn to deal with to dramatically reduce these problems in your home. The most important aspect of dealing with the terrible twos is communication. Specifically, make sure that you are listening to your child. If you don’t understand what he or she wants, simply pick up your child and say “show me”. About half the time a tantrum is the result of your child wanting something and not getting it. You might just not understand what your child wants and never thought to ask. Saying “show me” is an easy way to ask. The other half of the time you ill have to deny your child something. Perhaps little Sammy wants to play with your fine China. Naturally, you wont’ let him. But instead of saying “no”, I want to really encourage you to simply apply some distraction techniques. When kids are 2 years old, they do not have strong attention spans. So if your child wants something and you are about to say “no”, stop yourself. Think about this instead: Is your toddler old enough to actually understand the logic behind your answer? Of course not! So use distraction instead of logic. Logic and 2-year-olds do not mix. Stop wasting your time. In summary, most toddler behavior issues can be solved by two things. First, better listening by the parent. If you listen instead of talk, you’ll get more information and be better equipped to solve your toddler’s problem. Second, understand that logic is not your friend when it comes to the terrible twos. Logic isn’t going to really be useful to you until your child is about 4 years old, in my experience. Instead of saying “no” to your children and attempting to explain why, just ignore the request completely and apply a much more appealing distraction. Here is one distraction that I like to use: If my daughter is trying to get her hands on something that I’d rather she left alone, I will often be successful by picking her up and applying several distractions to overwhelm her and cause her to forget what she was doing. First, I’ll speak to her in a playful voice. Then, I’ll tickle her. Third, I’ll pick her up and carry her over to a window and mention something about the outside such as “Hey, do you see that furry squirrel on that tree”? Then, I just plop her down in front of some other toys that she is allowed to play with. When your children get to be a bit older, this simple distraction method may not work as well. Luckily there are all kinds of language tricks that you can use to influence your kids to do what you want them to do. To learn more about the language skills that will help you learn how to deal with toddlers check out my audio course “Talking to Toddlers” at http://TalkingToToddlers.com and make sure to sign up for the free audio lesson. Learn these tools. Reduce your parenting stress.  Tags: Toddler BehaviorBy Gail Woods For a parent, toddler behavior can be quite traumatic. It can also be a lot of fun. From the moment your toddler takes his first steps and utters his first words, it would appear as if a catastrophe in human form has been unleashed. Undaunted he will drag heavy chairs around and climb them to get at those high cupboards where the poisons are stored. Holes will be plugged with little fingers. If an object can be shoved into his mouth to be tasted and chewed, then in it goes. Drawers and cupboards will be emptied and refilled over and over again. Food will be squished and spread everywhere with great delight. Try stopping him from investigating his little world and he will scream blue murder. When his food or juice is not ready at just the moment he decides he is hungry or thirsty then he will whine until you are ready to throw him out with the rubbish. Forget trying to get him to share a toy (or anything else for that matter) with another child or sibling. As far as he is concerned it is just not going to happen. Sounds awful doesn’t it? Actually, it needn’t be all that bad. Try looking at the problem from your toddlers perspective. There he is and there are all those wonderful and exciting things everywhere around him. He needs to discover. He needs to experiment. But, he can’t speak adequately so he can’t ask. He is unable to understand you properly when you talk to him. He is however a great mimic. Good and bad toddler behavior depends a lot on you. If he sees you doing something, or hears you say something, then sooner or later he will try to do or say it as well. You plug in the vacuum cleaner, or take tablets, or smear cream on your face or use a swear word – so why can’t he? You need to constantly divert his attention away from what you are doing – so that he does not try to do it as well. When you are cooking, how about giving him a little bowl of bread mixed with water or milk to stir with a spoon or squish with his fingers. Sure he will gleefully make a mess, but he won’t be trying to drag that boiling pot off the stove to see what is in it. Need to clean windows? Wonderful! A small bucket of soapy water with a little bit of vinegar plus a pair of cotton socks (one sock on each hand) and he can wash the bottom of the windows while you work down from the top. At the same time chat or sing to him. He will be having so much fun, that he is unlikely to wander off and get into mischief and you can get that much needed job done in record time. How do you cope with his sudden decision that he wants to eat or drink – right now! Try putting a low plastic table in a corner somewhere that is just for him. Make sure there is always a bottle or sippy cup of juice or water available for him to take whenever he wants or needs it. You might even add a small plate of healthy finger foods from time to time. Come dinner time tonight, dish up an extra plate of food in a plastic plate, cover and freeze for future use – so that if you are caught short and his food is not ready in time then you can whip out one of the frozen meals and warm it up in just a few minutes. He doesn’t have long to wait and you don’t have to put up with a half hour of screaming and whining. Of course he is going to yell NO! When he doesn’t want to do something, (besides he no doubt hears you use the word often enough) but consider this … he is also learning to say no to his peers in years to come when they try to persuade him to do something that SHOULDN’T be done. Try to avoid using the word “no” whenever possible. Find an alternative and explanatory word such as “danger” when he is about to stick his finger in the electrical socket, or you catch him with a sharp object. He will soon cotton on. When toddler behavior threatens to drive you to madness, all you need to do is find interesting ways to divert his attention and allow him to investigate, explore and experience his world. To learn more about dealing with temper tantrums, teaching your toddler to share and even teaching him how to do chores willingly, as well as dealing with other behavior problems in children click on the link below. Tags: Toddler BehaviorBy Elizabeth Sultan Parents can become overwhelmed when their child misbehaves. This usually starts when the child is a toddler and carries on as they grow. Not following directions, hitting when upset and talking back are common issues parents try to tackle everyday. Some parents have run out of options and the child has free reign to act however he or she pleases. It is important to stay in control since you are the adult and need to guide them towards good behaviors. Many parents use physical punishment such as spanking with their children but it is not as effective as you may think. It will stop the bad behavior during that time, but it will not teach the child how to change the behavior. If he or she does not know good behavior, they are likely to continue doing the bad. Over time, physical punishment will have little effect and may even cause the child to become aggressive. There are better ways to rid them of their naughtiness. The time-out method will quickly stop the unwanted behavior. Decide on a spot for the time-out. This should be an uninteresting area such as a corner or on a chair. The amount of time that the time-out should be can be determined by the age of the child. If the child is 5 years old, 5 minutes will be long enough for them to sit and think about why they are having a time-out. Once the minutes are done, do not talk about the incident. Instead plan ways to reward them when they are behaving well. There are many ways to create a reward system for the child. One is by tracking their good and bad behavior on a chart. Stickers can show the total of the times the child was good. After a certain amount of stickers a reward can be given. Another way to teach the child good behavior is by using a timer. For children who procrastinate this can be quite the incentive. Assign them a task to complete. This might be cleaning their room, or washing the dishes. If it is finished by the time the timer rings, reward them. They will learn that there are benefits for doing good tasks. Praising them when they act well also helps to encourage them to continue to do so. No one ever said parenting is easy, but there are many ways to lessen the stress and add more fun to your family. Promoting good behavior at a young age will stay with them when they are adults and have their own families.
Nov
20
2008
Resolving Your Children’s Bad Behavior ProblemsPosted on 12:17, November 20th, 2008 by adminBy Michael W Anderson I’m sure you’ve heard it said, “children are a gift from God.” But when you discover your children have bad behavior problems, do you feel their more a gift from Satan? Don’t get me wrong, I love my kids with all my heart but a lot of times I’m really embarrassed by their bad behaviors. I get so discussed when they hit each other or other children, talk back to me (usually in front of my friends) or throw a temper tantrum in a crowded restaurant. I know kids don’t come with instruction manuals (if you know of one please let me know), but what are we as parents to do to control our children’s bad behavior? First they have to know that they are loved and no matter what they do, you will always love them with all your heart. But they must also know that actions have consequences and sometimes those consequences may not be pleasant. One thing I suggest you try is to deny them something you know will affect them the most if taken away. Find out what activity or item will bother them the most if they aren’t allowed to have for a while. If they like to watch television, tell them they can’t watch it for a day. If they love to play Playstation, take it away from them. If he has a favorite toy, don’t allow him to play with it. Let him know the reason your taking away the privilege is a result of his bad behavior and that your very disappointed in his behavior. You may have to do this a few times before they get the message. Be ready to listen to a lot of crying and whining but be strong and hang in there. If you have children with bad behavior problems and you feel like your at the end of your rope, give this tactic a try. You could be on the right track to changing you and your children’s lives forever.
Nov
20
2008
Discover 3 Top Tips for Dealing with Child Behavior Problems in SchoolsPosted on 12:14, November 20th, 2008 by adminBy Lee McIntyre When a lot of people think about child behavior problems, they often think of teenagers. On the news it’s usually teenagers at high school who end up with the publicity. The high school teachers who have to cope with the behavior. But dealing with young children is hard too. Young children can be exhausting at the best of times, but when they don’t behave they are a nightmare. Read on to discover my 3 top tips for dealing with classroom management issues with young children. Tip 1 – Demand respect Each and every time you’re in a classroom with your class you need to be respected. Presence in the classroom is vital if you’re going to have complete order and calm. This doesn’t mean you have to be mean, or very tall, anyone can do it. Use your body language and move around the room confidently. Make sure that your pupils know when you’re in the room, and what you expect them to be doing. Tip 2 – Clear Instructions With young children, they often have short attention spans. They aren’t very good at listening. So try to make your instructions as clear as possible. Don’t ask a very young child to do more than a couple of things at a time. For instance, you may need them to tidy up, bring their books to you, and gather round to listen. Get them to tidy up first. Then tell them to bring you their books. They get them to sit down. By giving clear and simple instructions they can’t forget what they’re supposed to be doing and your life becomes instantly easier. Tip 3 – Praise We all love to be praised when we do well. Think how you feel when your headteacher praises you on a brilliant lesson they’ve observed. It’s fantastic! Young children love praise more than anybody. So don’t be afraid to give it to them. In spades. There’s always something to praise your class for, whether it’s individuals or whole classes who deserve it. There is no better motivator than good, honest praise. Try it, and you’ll see child behavior problems improve in your classroom before your very eyes!
Nov
19
2008
Why is it that the parents with the worst behavior kids have think they are angels?Posted on 18:47, November 19th, 2008 by admin
Im talking like, parents that are all the time, Jonny is perfect, does nothing wrong. And even when the kid does horrible things right in front of them, they still do nothing and think they are perfect. These kids just get away with everything and are Satan’s Spawns!!! Why is this?? Nov
19
2008
Can anyone recommend any good books about kids’ behavior problems?Posted on 18:47, November 19th, 2008 by adminI wasn’t sure how to put that in a question. What I’m looking for is a book that will help me communicate with my children (10 and up) better. Or help my children communicate with eachother better. I have “How to Talk so Kids Will Listen…” and also “Siblings Without Rivalry”. Something along those lines. Can you help and recommend some? Thanks Nov
18
2008
Has anyone notice agressive behavior in kids with PS2?Posted on 18:38, November 18th, 2008 by adminWe have notice a pattern with our 12 year old. When he plays the PS2 his personality changes for the worse. When we take him off, he levels out. Our neighbors took their kid off all together. Last night our kid’s eyes were dylated after playing WWF on PS2. Has anyone else experienced this behavior or made this connection? |
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